Last week, we had such a good debate about who should pay for a wedding that I thought “Who Should Pay For A Date?” would be an equally relevant topic to chat about.
I admit; I didn’t have a lot of dating experience when I met my husband.
He likes to say he swept me off my feet (leading me to never date anyone else), and he was really the first very serious relationship I ever had.
Before him, I went to high school dances with other boys, and they always paid for my meal.
However, that’s definitely a special occasion, and their moms probably made sure they paid for me (or else!)
Dating an adult is different though and so a new set of rules might apply. Of course, based on my very limited experience, all I know is that my husband did pay for my meals when we first started dating, but as we got to know each other better, we split checks.
Reasons Why He Should Pay
Here are a few situations, which I think would merit a man paying for the date:
- He extended the invitation.
- He wants to show he has good, old-fashioned manners.
- He wants to show he can take care of his date.
- He enjoys treating someone else.
- His mom would kill him if she found out he didn’t pay.
Reasons Why She Should Pay
Here are a few situations where a woman might want to pay:
- She extended the invitation.
- She wants to show that she is independent.
- She wants to contribute to the relationship.
- She is showing him one of her favorite restaurants, and the date was her idea.
- She knows the date would be a stretch for him financially and she wants to help out.
Reasons Why They Should Split The Bill
Lastly, here are some reasons where a couple on a date might want to split the bill:
- They want to show that they both care about each other’s well being.
- They want to establish a strong, equal partnership.
- They aren’t concerned with “traditional” manners and prefer a more modern approach to dating.
- They both make good incomes, and so there is no reason why one should pay for the entire meal.
Of course, I’m sure there are many other reasons why people would insist on the man paying for a date or insist that couples split a bill. If that’s the case, I’d love to hear your opinions in the comment section below.
Like I said; I don’t have an extensive dating history, and I’m interested to see how other couples navigated the tricky battlefield of dating in the 21st century.
**Lance’s Two Cents** I don’t have a ton of experience here either! I was lucky and didn’t have to date a lot to find the right person. I think the first couple of date’s the guy should pay, unless the woman was the one who asked the guy out in which case I think splitting the check might be an option.
Other than that, after a few dates I don’t see why people couldn’t talk about it if things are going well. Chances are it would come up after a few dates I would think.
What do you think? Who should pay for a date? Do the circumstances matter, or should there be a strict rule that is followed? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below. I have a feeling this could be a fun discussion.
Photo by: oliviavaughn Text added by: Lance Cothern